Google Mom, Internet Mom, Online Mom, 21st Century Mom, all na MOM!

Whatever name they choose to call you and I (young moms), Google mom, internet mom, online mom, don’t mind them! Yes we’re the new generation moms and we’re proud of it. Lol. Mine is internet mom, that’s what my mom calls me and I like the name. In this day and age, with all the technology and research materials available at our fingertips, it will be very sad if we as parents suffer or even allow our kids suffer what we suffered growing up/ still suffering, when help is readily available on the internet. Yes, I agree that we shouldn't ignore all the admonitions of our parents and grandparents and other ‘well-meaning' family and friends. However, times have changed and we need to embrace REALITY.

When I found out I was pregnant, I sharply registered on BabyCenter.com (this website should be the Bible of every prospective, expectant, and current mom), where I was well informed of everything happening in the life of my unborn child. It tells you the size of the baby at different stages and all the developmental milestones accomplished. At 20 weeks, when I read that I could check out the sex of my baby, I sharply went 2 days after.

Information is key! Ignorance kills! All parents in this 21st century need to be well informed, and information is surplus online. Please don’t play with your child’s health, its dangerous. If your 2 months old son is coughing, Google it! Google is your friend! If you don't know how to use it, here’s how it works, just type inside the Google search box, “my 2 months old son is coughing what should I do”. Won’t you rather be a Google mom with a child that’s alive, than a respectful and obedient daughter or daughter in-law whose ‘poor’ son died because you didn’t treat him well and in good time?  Wisdom is profitable to direct.  If you’re pregnant, do as many pregnancy scans as you can do, it won’t kill your baby. Do you know how many mothers and children have been saved just as a result of carrying out a simple scan? I am one of such.

On a lighter note, check out some Nigerian myths that I still do not agree with below, but sometimes I just oblige for the sake of respect and so that PEACE can reign. Please kindly share some that you know of in the "comment" section below.

1. The Yoruba tribe, and maybe others too, recommend that pregnant women always have a little piece of iron on the body (esp clothes) e.g. safety pin, to ward off any evil spirits or attacks.
2. Pregnant women should not walk in the sun. I don't know why.
3. Babies should not be carried out of the house until they’re few months old (except immunization days, baby  dedication/thanksgiving day for Christians)
4. When a baby has hiccups, cut a little piece of thread and put on the head. This is supposed to stop the hiccups.
5. Babies shouldn't look at mirrors.
6. You shouldn't count the number of children a man has.

 Please kindly share some of your experiences in the comment section below and feel free to explain some of the myths I've listed above if you feel like doing so.

Thanks for reading.

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YOYO

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Online moms! ‘Birds of the same feather flock together’.

So, a good friend of mine, who’s also a first time mom (ftm) invited me to a bbm group of young wives/moms/moms to be, and I’m glad she did. We talk about anything and everything. Health, beauty, food, family life, in-laws, especially mothers in law (MIL), sex, spirituality, work issues, and general life issues. It has really been a blessing to know that you’re not alone in your problem or issues and you have friends and sisters that have your back. We pray, support, motivate, advise, encourage, rebuke, congratulate, celebrate and inspire each other.  Serious family issues are discussed; mother and child well-being matters and a whole lot of other matters are well dissected from different cultural, social, ethnic and religious angles.

I must mention that I also belong to a smaller group of moms, but this is on a larger scale and more ‘hard core’. Lol. (EP Moms, take note). Since joining this group of beautiful moms, (yes, beautiful because we've had a little get together few weeks back), I’ve learnt a couple of things, some of which can’t be shared here, lol. I even have a mentor there, she mentors me on a very important area…you can take a wild guess. Some topics that we’ve discussed include, how to manage helps, how to relate well with in-laws, food ideas for babies, how to celebrate or mark babies 1^st birthday, immunizations, and many others.

I don’t know if I’ll like for us to increase in number, cuz we’re presently almost 50. I always try to make sure I’m connected to the internet/ use my mobile data as often as I can, cuz if not, it can take almost an hour, if not more, to read up all the messages for the day. And trust me when I say there’s never a dull moment there. It’s a school on its own. We even have a class monitor. Lol.

I must also add that some have even found long lost 1st, 2^nd and even 5^th cousins, friends, former colleagues, ex boarding house bunk mates, so this is a mini Facebook oo.

At this junction, I’ll like to suggest that if you’re a young mom, (or you know someone who is) who’s sometimes as clueless as some of us are please join a support group or better still start one. You’ll be glad you did. And even if you already know so much as a young mom, others can learn from you and not make the same mistakes you made.

In conclusion, please remember that ‘Iron sharpenth iron’, ‘no man (woman) is an island’ and ‘birds of the same feathers flock together’. Have a lovely day!

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